Many mothers of the bride are not sure how much influence the bride should have over the selection of her dress. What is an unwavering rule is that you should absolutely consult her on the color of the dress. Some brides have issues with specific shades (like white, black or red) and they may abide by the rule that the mother of the bride’s dress should match or complement the bridesmaids’ attire. Some brides really love it when the dresses match or others may want you to stay within the same color spectrum. No matter what, listen to what the bride expects because this is her day.

Some brides may also have an opinion on the length, style and formality of the dress. It is best to try and respect her wishes because there is no harm in wearing a dress with long sleeves or any particular that will make her happy. When you go shopping for the dress, keep in mind her requests and suggestions but also make sure you are happy with the dress you settle on because you can both get what you want and look beautiful.